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Tuesday, May 06, 2025

At Peace

 

(My father and former web columnist has passed away on 29 April 2025. I am sharing with you the eulogy I delivered during the final viewing of his remains in Edmond, Oklahoma, USA on 3 May 2025.)

Each of us has lost a father, brother, grandfather, uncle, and friend in our beloved Mario. And as he lay asleep in the blessed hope of the Resurrection, I remember how he told us when we were kids to respect someone who is asleep: Kung ayaw mong matulog, magpatulog ka. I once disobeyed this house rule and was smacked accordingly.

As Papa lays asleep, let us allow him to sleep in peace. To do this, I am reminded of some advice he once told me: rise to the occasion. In those moments of unforgiveness, we rise to forgive. In times of despair, we rise to hope. In times of need, we rise to reach out.

I have not received any sign from Papa since his passing, but listening to your stories and relating with you, I realize that you are his signs for me. Recently, Emmy Garon, wife of the late Bob Garon, wrote to say that she will never, ever forget Papa. He did something which he never expected will save thousands and thousands of lives who were addicted to drugs. To this day, what he implemented in DARE is now the official method of rehabilitation in the Philippines. 

Papa has made a difference in our lives. We too are called to make a difference in the lives of the people around us. Doing so, Papa would be at peace.

Thank you, Gio and Marcia, for welcoming Papa into your home. Thank you, Tita Meddy and Tito Teddy, for being there for Papa when he was so ill. You stayed by his side as long as he needed you. Thank you, Gio’s friends for accepting Papa as part of your families. He spent the last years of his life enjoying the warmth and love that you showered him. I am pretty much sure that he will put a good word for you all when he meets the Lord.

We just recited a Chaplet of Divine Mercy. Before Papa passed away, Tita Meddy prayed this beautiful devotion with some of the family around him. Tito Teddy told me that when the fourth decade was recited, Papa’s countenance became peaceful. The next time you recite the Chaplet, please remember Papa in your prayers.

On behalf of my siblings and our families, as well as the Valdes-Albano Clan, thank you for being with us in these difficult times. God bless.
 

Thursday, March 04, 2021

Tita Nina




Whenever I think of Tita Nina, I am reminded of the Parable of the Sower (Matthew 13:1-9). My Dad used to tell me that every waking moment, Tita Nina was on social media. Indeed, Facebook would not be complete without her posts -  words from the Bible, prayers, religious articles, religious songs, greetings to family and friends celebrating their special occasions, etc. Our clan's Facebook page is replete of her posts. She was the PR person of the clan! 


All of that came to a sudden halt yesterday. 



After been in hospital for a few weeks, she passed away leaving her husband Tito Nello; children Krista, Tara, Tony, and PV; and grandsons Tony and Lazarus. Her death came as a shock; the clan has not yet recovered from the death of Tito Alex, his older brother, who passed away exactly 11 months ago today.



It is remarkable that despite being ill, she continued sowing those words of wisdom, inspiration, and love in Facebook. The last time I communicated with her (27th February), she told me that she was getting better, but she was taking it really slow. She did appreciate the videos I shared with her on the Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament shown live in the Poor Clare Monastery in our parish. Before she passed away, she still managed to have five posts! One of the posts was a song in YouTube. The song's title is "Psalm 31:Father, Into Your Hands I Commend My Spirit". This were Jesus' last words on the Cross before "He breathed His last" (Luke 23:46).



Going back to the Parable of the Sower, I could identify Tita Nina as the sower. She sowed the seeds of faith, hope, and love through social media regardless if we ignore them outright, receive them initially with joy but have not nurtured them, receive them but got distracted by something else, or perhaps receive and treasure them. 



Thoughtful, sweet, devout. Those are the three qualities I remember of Tita Nina. In her memory, let us allow the seeds she has sown in our hearts to grow. Let us nurture them so we could be sowers who will share the same seeds with others. 



Tita Nina, thank you for being you. Despite what you went through you continued to be in touch with family and friends, affirming us in faith, hope, and love. Go forth now in God's kingdom where there is no more sickness, but healing; no more pain, but comfort; no more darkness, but light; no more sadness, but happiness; no more loneliness, but the ever abiding presence of God on whom you commended your spirit. Rest in peace, Tita Nina. We love you!


Thursday, May 21, 2020

Baby's First Word


Every 10:30pm (UK time), my siblings (3 in the US, 1 in the UK, 1 in the Philippines), our families, our mother, and I would have a group chat via Messenger to say the Rosary. When the lockdown was on its first few days in mid-March, we kept in touch to see how everyone's doing.  During those times, a former colleague in UST and I had a chat and she told how she and her siblings would gather every evening through social media to pray. I had a thought about that and floated the idea with my siblings. And so, we began our devotion on 2nd April. 

Because we are 5 siblings, we take turns in leading a decade of the Rosary. Later on, we involved other members of the family such as our mother, spouses, and children. Mama would lead in the Introductory Prayers (Apostles' Creed, Our Father, 3 Hail Marys, 1 Glory). Chiara and Stella (my niece, brother Gio's eldest daughter) would lead in the 2 special prayers to Mary which Pope Francis has asked the faithful to pray this month. In keeping with a long-standing tradition in May, we sing the Salve Regina (Hail Holy Queen).

In one of our Rosaries, we all overheard Samantha (my 1 year old niece, Gio's youngest daughter) repeatedly saying "Mama...Mama". We smiled (and laughed a bit). The little girl is learning to talk and one of the first words she learnt is "Mama" (The other word is "Stella").

As we continued saying the Rosary that night, Samantha's word kept ringing in my ear. I thought to myself, what this little girl is saying is what essentially we her elders are saying right at that moment. We adults talked about this after our family prayer. Indeed, the exalted words of the Angelic Salutation (aka Hail Mary), for me, can be summed up perfectly in one word: "Mama".

The Hail Mary recalls God choosing a woman "full of grace" to be His Mother. It brings to mind Elizabeth recognizing her younger cousin as "the Mother of my Lord". It remembers our forebears entrusting themselves to the "Mother of God...now and at the hour of our death". It is a Christian's cry to his/her Mother!

When was the last time we recited the Hail Mary or the Rosary like a child to our mother?

Samantha has unknowingly made us realize how important Mary is in our lives as a domestic Church. The next time we say the Rosary, let's not rush uttering the Hail Mary (or any other prayer said in that beautiful devotion). Let's savour the taste of each word in that prayer. Let's mean what we are saying in prayer. Let's be child-like once again when we communicate with God and with His saints, Mama Mary especially.


Thursday, January 07, 2016

Gio


Most people would mistake me as the baby in this almost 40-year old photo. Probably because of the way the baby and I smile – we both ‘lose’ our eyes!  Actually, I am the older, rather serious looking boy.  And the baby? That’s my younger brother Giovanni; Bunny or Gio for short.

This was one of the earliest photos I have with my brother since he was born. He was just 4 months old while I was 2 years old when this photo was taken.  Our photo reflects our personality though. Between us, I am the serious type of guy while he was the outgoing one. In our childhood and adolescence, as I immersed myself with my studies, house duties, and involvement in the church, he was engaged with sports and civic activities through the Lions’ Club.

This disparity was evident when we both studied in the same school for our basic education. One time, I was called by his teacher (who happened to be my teacher previously). The teacher was fuming mad: “(Expletive). Ibabagsak ko ‘yang kapatid mo!” (I am going to fail your brother!). In our meeting, the teacher told me that my brother did something naughty to his classmate (whose older brother was my classmate). Afterwards, I talked to my mother about what transpired and later confronted my brother.  His reaction? He just gave a sheepish smile!

Beyond his kapilyuhan, I have seen how my brother took life seriously.  He was working while at the same time studying for college. There were instances that he had to put on hold his studies due to work, but eventually he made it. During his graduation, I hugged him tightly and cried.

After coming home from work and he would see me still awake at those unholy hours, he would either invite me to eat – there are a host of food stalls nearby which operate till late at night or early morning – or watch a DVD. One of the memorable DVDs we watched together (not once, but several times) was “Men of Honor” starring Robert De Niro and Cuba Gooding Jr.

When I was already in the UK, he would often tell me “Manong, kunin mo na ako.” (Brother, take me with you.).  At first I just laughed, but later I felt powerless to help him.  Just the same, he worked in Singapore and then migrated to the States, a dream he had since he was a boy. He did not let his guard down on this dream. And his sacrifices paid off!

Gio, I am proud of you!  You have taught me how to persevere especially when the going gets rough. Keep up the good work. Stay focused so that one day, you, Marcia, and Stella would be together. And have some fun!

Happy 40th birthday, Bro! God bless you always.


Saturday, May 23, 2015

First Salubong in Gagalangin


(2015 marks the 100th birth anniversary of my late grandmother Dr Pilar Valdes-Albano. Part of that celebration is to feature anecdotes in her Facebook group page. Below is the anecdote featured last May 20, her 15th death anniversary.)
As Easter draws to a close this Pentecost Sunday, I cannot fail to recall one summer morning in 1980 when Manong Romy Sanchez, one of our drivers, brought me and my younger brother Gio to Tayuman to collect statues of the Risen Christ and of the Mater Dolorosa (Sorrowful Mother). Upon reaching home, Lola Piling (we lived with our grandparents during that time) had a look at the statues. She had the Virgin Mary’s statue placed in one corner, but had Jesus’ statue returned. Another statue was brought later that day, but this too didn’t satisfy Lola’s taste.
Meanwhile, all of us grandchildren at that time who were staying in Manila, were rehearsing with Fr Loreto Palafox, St Rita Hospital Chaplain, and Tita Tessa Albano. The song was in Latin. Manong Coy Alcantara was chosen to be the soloist. In our young minds, we didn’t have a clue of what we will be doing and why.Everything seemed rushed.
One evening, we all went to Rotonda where a stage was ready. The statue of the Virgin Mary on a float was brought in and Manong Coy had a try of reaching the statue’s head. We left a few minutes later. Still, no idea what we will be doing and why.
The following day, all of us woke up very early and were dressed in white long dress complete with white hairclips! (Don’t ask me why even us boys have to wear clips!) As we took a ride from the house to Rotonda, we saw a young priest speaking with Lolo Paul. It was Msgr Feliciano Santos, the new parish priest.
Rotonda was already full of people. We assembled on the stage. Fr Palafox was nearby as well as Tita Tessa who provided the musical accompaniment. I think Tito Alex too helped with another musical instrument. From Yangco Street, the float of the Virgin Mary came forth. Later, from S. del Rosario Street came a brightly lit float of the Risen Christ. With the floats facing each other, it was time for us to sing: Regina coeli laetare, alleluia, alleluia, alleluia, alleluia, alleluia, alleluia! (Queen of heaven rejoice, , alleluia, alleluia, alleluia, alleluia, alleluia, alleluia!). Manong Coy would later remove the black veil of Our Lady’s statue. After our song, an effigy of Judas Iscariot was burned down – I later found out that this was a custom in Ilocos Norte. Then we headed to St Joseph Church for the Easter Sunday Mass.
Years later, I discovered that there was no Salubong – that religious tradition in the Philippines commemorating the Risen Jesus’ encounter with His mother Mary - in Gagalangin before 1980. Which is why Lola would describe to me this event as an ‘emergency’. Perhaps when Msgr Santos assumed pastoral responsibility, he was surprised to find out the absence of a Salubong and requested for one to be held. Lola, during that time, was President of the Catholic Women’s League. She may have been asked for help or she may have volunteered. Either way, she was more than happy to help!
The next Salubongs in Gagalangin didn’t have any Albanos participating as a number of members started to migrate to the States. As we spend our Holy Week in Cavite, my three sisters – Gisela, Nicola, and Kristina –were often performing as angels. Right here in Nottingham, our Filipino Rosary Crusade have our own version of the Salubong. It may not be as lavish as its counterpart at home, but it attempts to evangelize especially our kids and young people who have not been aware of this tradition. Chiara has been one of the kids singing!
Thank you, Lola for introducing us to such a beautiful Easter tradition. May your good example be a source of inspiration for us to remain generous so that, emergency or not, we would be ready to lend a hand to the community. It’s been 15 years since you passed away. Today, as we gather to offer for you the Mass of the Resurrection – that’s how you call a Requiem Mass - may our faith be renewed in Him who triumphed over sin and death. May you be at peace in your personal salubong with the Risen Lord and the Blessed Mother!

Saturday, March 07, 2015

Thy Will Be Done


"Hanapin mo ang kalooban ng Diyos. Sabihin mo lagi 'Panginoon, ituro mo sa akin ang kalooban Mo'". (Search for the will of God. Always say, 'Lord teach me Your will') These were the words I would often hear from Lola Piling during my teenage years.  For some time, I would just let the words pass from one ear to another. Like any teenagers, I wanted to gain that independence, to seek my will and not someone else's. Such was my stubbornness that I didn't even bother to ask her what God's will is.  

One time, Ms. Melba Silvela, our Religion teacher in 4th year high school, asked us to write an essay. I can't remember now what the topic was all about, but I wrote something like it was God's will that something bad has happened (An earthquake perhaps? Mind you, there was an earthquake that hit Luzon that year).  Nanay Bang, as I now call this beloved teacher, read my paper aloud and corrected me. She said it wasn't God's will that calamities happen. Rather God permitted them to happen. So from then on, I learned that God's will isn't the same as God's permission; particularly that God won't will for His creation to be destroyed.

I continued to ask my peers (rather than my superiors). One classmate Fernando Lopez (not the former Vice President!) who once was a seminarian told me that God's will is in His 10 commandments. Later in college, when I was studying Ethics, I learned that to know God's will is to read the Scriptures. Finally, another ex-seminarian, told me that God's will can be discovered when you are at peace with your decisions.

We've often prayed "Thy will be done" without fully understanding nor sincerely seeking for it.  However, as a parent now myself, I realize the huge responsibility of raising my child as a good Christian. I dread the day Chiara might ask me what it is and I'll find myself dribbling my answer like a basketball. Worse, I might set a bad example to her (and to others). 

During Lola's final phone call to me and my siblings in Manila about 15 years ago, her last words to me were "Always communicate with God." What a perfect way to know the Lord's will than to communicate with Him!  

Lent gives us all that opportunity to have a hard look at our stubborn selves.  Is our will working? If not, then it's definitely time to try someone else's; someone who is faithful (1 Corinthians 1:9). We may not find it straightaway and be perplexed like St Joseph when he discovered his future wife to be with child. But if we are humble and open like this son of David, we will soon discover what God really wants.



God's will may seem to be undrinkable like the cup of suffering that Jesus referred to in His agony in the garden (Matthew 26:39), but let us trust the Father the way Jesus did. Didn't Christ say that "My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me and to accomplish His work." (John 4:34)?



Going back to Lola, she was a devotee of St Joseph. Her favorite color is green which is one of St Joe's symbolic color (the other being yellow). But beyond the green attire she wore, I found in her persona the true essence of being a devotee of this great saint: obedience to God's will.



Happy 100th birthday, Lola Piling! Thank you for your unfailing love and motherly guidance. Thank you for putting up with such a hard-headed grandson. Thank you for always reminding me with what matters most in being a Christian, in being a person.  Keep on inspiring us, keep on praying for us that our hearts too may always say "Thy will be done"!  Rest in God's abiding peace. I love you!


Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Maka-matanda


Maka-matanda (able to mature). That's how some contemporaries would use to describe me when I was 10 years old or so.  For when schools are closed and kids would often play under the scorching heat of the sun, I was nowhere in the streets. I was in the kubol (chapel) joining my aunt and other elders chanting the Pasyong Mahal (a poem on the life of Jesus sung during Lent). 

In my early teens (and this was when we moved back in Manila), the church would be the only place I would be after school - attending Mass or any pious activity, attending meetings or choir practice, etc.  When I was contemplating on what church group I would like to join, I had in mind the Cofradia de San Jose, an organization composed of adults, mostly elderly men and women in the parish. 

As I progressed in school then to university and later got a job, I became less immersed in church. It was not because I found the devotion boring, but it was because I lacked the time to do what I used to do.  There were 2 instances that seem to be wake up calls for me.  

I was then teaching in UST. Two of my students approached me and frankly told me, "Sir, bakit ang sungit ninyo? Siguro 'di kayo nagsisimba?" (Sir, why are you so ill-tempered? Perhaps you haven't been to church lately?).  (Now these two students knew me as I taught them in a previous semester. Apart from that, I was one of their advisers in the Pax Romana-College of Science chapter.) I was dumbfounded.  Thinking about it, I do go to church every Sunday, but that was it! Soon, I made it an effort to attend daily Mass at the UST Chapel, UST Hospital Chapel, or the neighboring Espiritu Santo Parish Church. 

Just a few years later, we had a speaker in one of our Christian Life Programs at the Singles for Christ in Gagalangin. He shared with us how he would attend daily Mass. After his talk, I approached and praised him for his devotion. I went further by asking him how does he still find time to do it. "Hinihingi 'yan, brod." (You just need to ask for it, brother). 

True, there may be moments when going to church daily would be a tall order, but if we humble ourselves and ask God for the grace to be there, He will give us that chance. In my young mind then, I've seen how this grace operated in the life of my Lolo Paul. In spite of his hectic schedule, he and Lola Piling, would still find time to attend daily Mass at the St Rita Hospital Chapel.  

On one rare occasion, there was an emergency in the hospital (someone due to give birth perhaps) while Mass was being offered. Lolo was called by the nurse.  He left the chapel straightaway. Later, Lola followed him.  I guess this would be understandable especially if there is a patient in need. To ignore this person would be tantamount to ignoring Jesus present in him (Matthew 25:40).

It's Lolo Paul's 30th death anniversary today. Looking back, I am grateful. Grateful for having that chance to be immersed in those forms of devotion, of being up and about in "the Father's business", of being able to mature in the faith. Grateful for having such a loving grandfather who made this possible. Following his good example, may I strive "to act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with God" (cf. Micah 6:8).

Rest in God's peace, Lolo Paul! We love you!











Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Love Like Unto Thine


My Lolo Paul once wrote "Love is my amulet, the secret of my success".  How can I describe his love? 

1. His love nurtured.  Lola Piling used to say that he found in Lolo Paul "a husband, father, and brother rolled in one".  Through the ups and downs in their 46 years of marriage, Lolo Paul was there for Lola Piling (and vice-versa).  Tito Larry once mentioned that in spite of being busy, Lolo Paul would make it a point to ask his kids how they were getting along in school. I got my religiosity from him. He was the consummate family man!

2.  His love knew no bounds.  He took care of 4 of his siblings in their old age. The late Ms Luisa "Tia Lucing" De Jesus said that my grandparents were not discriminatory when people would approach them for help ("Walang sinisino").  Their home was open to everyone.  

3.  His love disciplined.  Elders would tell me that he was a disciplinarian. An infraction is dealt with a corresponding punishment. My younger brother and I, in one of our mischiefs, were not spared from his leather belt!  

Lolo Paul (and Lola Piling) was a devotee of the Sacred Heart of Jesus.  One of the earliest songs in honor of the Sacred Heart that I heard him sung goes like this:

O Sacred Heart, O Love Divine
Do keep us near to Thee
And make our love so like to Thine
That we may holy be

And make our love so like to Thine.  I am sure that when he sings these lines, my grandfather meant what these say.  He strived to mirror God's love in how he engaged with those around him.  Isn't it that God's love nurtures (Isaiah 49:15; Matthew 9:36; Matthew 6:30-33; John 14:27)? That it welcomes all (Luke 11:15-32; Ephesians 2:4-7; 1 John 4:7-12)? And that  it disciplines (Deuteronomy 8:5; Job 5:17; Hebrews 12:6-11)? 


As of this writing, it's nine days to go before the Solemnity of the Sacred Heart of Jesus. Like Lolo Paul, let's ask our Lord to make our love like unto His.  That we may holy be.

Happy 103rd birth anniversary, Lolo Paul! May we continue to put on God's love as we live our vocation, as we walk along the way of peace. We love you.









Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Hairy Issues


Many years ago, we went to the airport to fetch our grandmother who was returning from a trip to the States. As we waited, my aunt told me "There's your Lola (Grandmother)!". I stood up in front of a woman I hardly recognized. She wasn't the Lola I knew of. Her white hair prevented me from recognizing her.   My younger brother had a different reaction. Once she asked my mother if she would also grow old like Lola. My mother gave the affirmative to which my brother cried!

Later on, I have seen my Lola's white hair in her children - my Dad and his siblings.  
(Lola Piling and her sons. Seated: Lola Piling; Standing L-R: Mario (Papa), Ireneo, Laurentino, Paulino Jr., and Alejandro Albano)

When I started to have white hair, an aunt told me "Welcome to the club!".  White hair can sometimes be nasty because,  and I noticed this, they grow faster than the dark one. My wife would cut or pluck them out before, but she seemed to have given up when more and more of them appeared. (I've seen some white hair too in my moustache, nose, and beard!)

If my father's side of the family is known to have white (and thick) hair, my mother's side has (male) members with thinning hair.  



(Samaniego siblings. Seated L-R: Aida (Mama), Aida Samaniego (Mama's sister-in-law; my aunt and godmother), Lilia Samaniego-Reyes; Standing L-R: Edgardo, Luisito, Augusto Jr., and Rustico Samaniego)

Looking at my head, I have the 'best' of both families!

White or thinning hair, both tell us of the reality of ageing.  The Good Book says "White hair is a crown of honor obtained by righteous living." (Proverbs 16:31).  It's nearly Father's Day. I must admit that I am not a perfect father, but at each waking moment, at each time I hear my daughter's voice, my heart leaps for joy. I am grateful to be a father. As I age, I hope and pray that I will grow as a wise and holy father (and husband). That I'll be worthy of that 'crown of honor'.

Happy Father's Day to all dads!

Friday, November 29, 2013

'Tis the Season to be Thankful!

As I write this piece, family and friends across the pond are celebrating Thanksgiving Day, an annual national holiday to give thanks for the harvest and for the preceding year.  The Albanos in Staten Island, New York have been holding a football game during this celebration since 2007. 

Apart from the harvest and the blessings of the previous year, the gifts of life and love are to be remembered, celebrated, and be grateful for.  Just a day after this year's Thanksgiving, 2 members of our clan are celebrating their birthday.


First on the list is my uncle and godfather, Dr Paulino "Sonny" V Albano Jr.  Ninong Sonny (picture here on the left with his youngest son Manong Paul and grandson Christopher Paul) is the eldest in his brood.  A successful cardiologist in New York, there is no dull moment with him.  I remember the happy times we've spent during our vacations in Ilocos Norte.  Christmas 1998 was really memorable.  After having breakfast, we were supposed to go straight to Bacarra where then Mayor Pacing Velasco was expecting us. He suddenly decided to change the itinerary as he wanted to see relative who was not in speaking terms with our family.  I felt rather nervous at the prospect of going to their place, but was surprised that we were graciously welcomed for lunch.  After exchanging some pleasantries, Ninong Sonny (who was sat between me and this relative) went straight to the point: he wanted to mend the fence.  I felt relieved - not because of the food (Yes, there were lots of them!), but because of the peace that came forth from that event.

With Lolo Paul and Lola Piling now gone, Ninong Sonny has assumed the patriarchate of the clan.  As he once told me, he is the takbuhan (center) of his siblings as well as his nephews and nieces. Personally, there have been instances in the past when he became our kasangga (protector), standing up for our defence.  

It was nice to see him again during my visit to the States last year.  He expressed satisfaction with how Nidz and I are doing.  Before we bid adieu, he told me how the clan has kept itself together, the way his parents have wanted it.

Many happy returns on your 74th birthday, Ninong Sonny!  Thank you for all your kindness.  Keep up the good work of nurturing our clan.  May the good Lord bless you!  We love you!


Next on the list is my cousin, Alexis Albano (pictured here on the left with her sisters Pinky and Ate  Ritzie and cousins Ate Dia and Ate Mia). Ate Leli, as I would call her, is the second daughter of Tito Alex and Tita Peachie Albano.  When we were kids way back in the early 80s, they were our next door neighbors.  We often played and sometimes fight (Kids that we were then!).  Later they moved back to the States, however we kept in touch with them every now and then. I heard that she studied at the West Point in the mid 90s.  Knowing how prestigious this institution is, I felt proud of my cousin!  The last time I saw her was in 1999. It's a shame that we didn't see each other last year.  

Ate Leli got married this 24th (same day as her Dad's birthday).  I'm sure this event gives more reason for celebration on her natal day.

Wishing you all the best on your birthday, Ate Leli!  Congratulations to you and Jessica as you begin a new life together.  God bless you both! See you soon! 

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Kudos to Representative Manny Pacquiao for winning the match against Brandon Rios!  There have been many moments when the Philippines is at its low and then you'll hear news of a Pinoy boxer winning!  What a saving moment indeed for Pinoys! This is something to be thankful for!

But what if you hear things such as those politicizing the relief operations for Typhoon Yolanda victims?  Remember those bags with the seal of the Vice President of the Philippines on it?  The VP's excuse: it was his friends' doing. Tell it to the Marines!

Or how about the allegation that the Department of Social Welfare & Development (DSWD) has left relief goods to rot?

Or how about these men, disguised as airport staff at the Ninoy Aquino International Airport (NAIA), who would help tourists and balikbayans move their baggage only to extort money on their hapless victims? I heard that they are protected by airport police.

To these and other people of the same ilk, you deserve our kutos (a knuckle blow on the head)!

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The Virgin Mary, under the title of Immaculate Conception, is the Patroness of the Philippines. In preparation for her feast day on Monday December 9 (the actual feast is December 8, but because it fell on a Sunday, it's moved on the following day), I would like to invite all Catholic Pinoys to recite at least a decade of the Rosary from Saturday November 30 up to Sunday December 8.  Let's ask her help that our country would rise again from the many challenges it has faced or is currently facing this year.














Sunday, July 28, 2013

Tito Chito



As a kid, we were taught who were my parents' siblings. It was quite interesting, especially on my father's side because there at the living room in my grandparents' house hung a family painting, a copy of their family photo taken during Lolo Paul and Lola Piling's 25th wedding anniversary. The painting was our visual aid to learn and memorize the Valdes-Albano siblings!

I have met all my father's siblings, minus Ramon "Tito Chito" Albano, who, I was told died together with 23 other scouts in an air plane crash on July 28, 1963, exactly 50 years ago.  Reading the souvenir programme published during their 25th death anniversary, I learned that before boarding the plane in Bangkok (going to Greece where the 11th World Scout Jamboree was to be held), he sent a postcard to his family in Manila and to his priest uncle in Ilocos Norte.  Little did everyone know that it would be his way of bidding them adieu.

I was in my junior year in Letran Manila (the same age as when Tito Chito died) when we had this recollection somewhere in the north of the metropolis.  During that religious event, the recollection master exhorted us every now and then: Yakapin ninyo sila habang mainit pa (Hug them while they - parents, loved ones, etc.  - are still alive).  The words cut us through the heart and we, boys though we were, kept on sobbing.

Teenage children that we were at that time, we wanted to be independent. We don't want someone else to talk over us. We wanted our every whim granted.  Being independent has its advantages as it allows an individual to think for himself, to be able to make decisions. However, without proper guidance (from above and from those around them), young people end up taking people and things for granted. Worse, we might live l till we're too old!

Yakapin ninyo sila habang mainit pa. Tito Chito, I guess, would have embraced his loved ones on many occasions.  When was the last time we hugged our children, our spouses, our loved ones?

Yakapin ninyo sila habang mainit pa. Tito Chito's thoughtfulness of sending a (final) postcard shows us to seize every opportunity to value the people around us.  When was the last time we said or wrote words like "I love you", "Thank you", "Take care", "Sweet dreams", "God bless you", or (borrowing Tito Chito's closing lines in his postcard) "Love, kisses, and prayers"? 

Yakapin ninyo sila habang mainit pa.   Tito Chito, aware that he was away from his family, assured them in his postcard, that he was OK, that they need not worry.  In this time and age when families become separated due to migration and the like, when was the last time we sent an e-mail, text, etc.  to those away from us just to let them know that we're alright (or not)?

Yakapin ninyo sila habang mainit pa.  In today's Gospel, Jesus taught us to call God "Father".  As such, we are called to love because that is His essence.  In the spirit of the Boy Scout's motto let us be "Laging Handa" (Always ready) to share the love we have experienced from the Lord, before it's too late.

God bless you kind and sweet soul, Tito Chito!



Thursday, July 25, 2013

Three Celebrants, One Birthday!

Three people share God's blessing as they celebrate their natal day today, July 25.



First in the list is Laurentino "Tito Larry" Albano, my father's older brother.  Tito Larry is the third child of Lolo Paul and Lola Piling.  An excellent basketball player, he used to be the Coach of the Basketball Team in Letran Manila.  Our family would normally watch the games then to give my uncle and his team moral support.  Little did I know then that I would return to watch similar games years later - as a student of that august institution.  Apart from coaching, he was also the President of the family business.  Because two of his older brothers were in the States, Tito Larry acted as the panganay among his siblings in Manila.  Following the footsteps of Lolo Paul, he became Grand Knight of the Knights of Columbus (St Joseph de Gagalangin Parish) for some time; he was also Vice President of the Parish Pastoral Council during the late Msgr Feliciano Santos' time.  

I used to hear people call him "Godfather", but until now I'm still in limbo as to how he got this monicker. I asked folks from the States, but it got more murky as another uncle is called the same from their end. There are still those who call him "Tata Larry" (Tata is an Iluko word for 'father').  Indeed, he was looked up as a father by his employees.

Tito Larry's kids - Banjo, Champ, and Leia particularly - were our kalaro  since we all grew up together.  In the early 80s, Tito Larry and later his family moved to the States. Yet, we continue to get in touch through letters, pasalubongs (of which they are very thoughtful), and e-mails. Tito Larry was one of the first in the second generation of Albanos to go 'online'.  I could feel his fatherly guidance and assurance whenever I read his e-mail, regardless if the message were brief or not.  One e-mail I cannot fail to forget was when I thanked him for his kind words upon hearing the news that Chiara was born. His reply? "But of course she (Chiara) is our grand daughter!". I may be sentimental, but his message was really inspiring particularly that we don't have any family members near us when Nidz gave birth.

Cheers to you, dear uncle, on your 70th birthday!  May you continue to grow in God's grace, mirroring His fatherly care to all whom you meet!

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Second in my list is Sancho "Tito So" Castro.  He is the youngest child of Lolo Tony and Lola Urs.  Like our first honoree, he is also active in church, serving as a Lector/Commentator at the St Mary Magdalene Parish (Kawit, Cavite).  A faculty member at the De la Salle University (Dasmarinas), Tito So is also active in a male chorale group.  We see each other very often in parish celebrations whenever I come home. We also keep ourselves updated from time to time in Facebook.  Tito So as well as his siblings continue to bring the light of Christ to the people of Kawit.

Many happy returns on your special day, beloved Tito! Keep up the good work in the Lord's vast harvest!

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Last, but not least is Hershey Joy Mauricio-Reyes, the newest member of the Samaniego-Reyes clan, the wife of my first cousin Eldin.  I have not yet met Hershey, but I have in touch with her through social networking. Thanks to her, I was able to send a message to Tita Lilia through Voxer.  I was also able to hear my aunt's voice using the same technology.

Wishing you all the best, Hershey! This year is truly a great year - in January you and Eldin tied the knot; this December you will both be welcoming your bundle of joy! Looking forward to see you all soon! God bless you 3!

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Papa's Hero


(I am taking a respite after being bombastic in my 3 previous articles.  Kidding aside, May 24, 2013 marks the 37th Death Anniversary of the Rt Rev Msgr Fidel E Albano, my grand uncle [in white cassock; sat at the middle of the picture above] .  In honor of Lolo Padi, as we would call him, my father Mario [sat at Lolo Padi's left] has kindly written this piece.)

For a young boy, summertime in Bacarra, Ilocos Norte was no vacation. The place where we regularly stayed did not have electricity, water is to be carried in pails from the ground floor up to living quarters, forget about the toilet for it was a bottomless pit with a wooden seat designed like a commode and oh, the doors were tremendous in size - they creaked when you opened them, the windows were so wide you might just suffer an unfortunate accident if you were not careful. The church ceilings housed thousands of fruit bats; hanging on the rafters and along the high walls, they attracted very large monitor lizards. We slept on floor mats made of thatch grass or dried palm fronds.

To live with my uncle, the Right Reverend Monsignor Fidel E. Albano, you worked. The day started at 4:30 AM. We’d get ready ASAP for his 5:00 AM Mass. You see, my uncle was the parish priest of St. Andrew Catholic Church for the longest time I can remember. The boys took turns as sacristans, altar servers, ushers, or candle sellers. Everyone’s favorite assignment was to sell candles and it doesn’t take much imagination why. Mass was in Latin, so you had to memorize the appropriate responses. After Mass and breakfast, my uncle apportioned a good part of the morning for us to read Latin and English books and to write in English.

Church bells were rung during Angelus and after most church events. The belfry has three bells: large, medium and small size. With cables, you need to have a strong leg to kick-pull the cable attached to the dong in order to bang the large bell. Your arms must also be strong enough to pull the cables for dongs to bang the other 2 bells. I enjoyed swinging on the cables to ring the large bell. Over time, one learned the sequence and space in the sounds of the dongs as well as the frequency of the sounds created as it relates to the activity in the church.

After lunch, my aunt, his younger sister, Candida E. Albano made sure we had an afternoon nap while the older boys get to gather Dangla branches and leaves, a local brush that grows on arid and gravelly soil that surrounded the church. We’d use the leaves from these branches to sweep the floor tiles of the church and it would produce a fresh woodsy scent that to this day I can only remember Bacarra as the origin of that scent. A few hundred yards from the church, there is a river where we’d skinny dip later in the afternoon. The surrounding area of the church was covered with large trees: Acacia, Anunang, Kamatsile, Kaymito, Sinigwelas, Duhat, and Malungay species.

My uncle had a block of wood he would shave into powder as a remedy for minor cuts and bruises we’d suffer from horseplay during our stay. The incense he used in church came from the Itneg people in the Kalinga-Apayao mountains. It was delivered in large chunks of hardened, glassy tree resin. He used a mortar and pestle to ground the resin into fine granulated aromatic incense powder. The heavenly scent is so unforgettable that you’d have to be in Bacarra to experience it.

At the front of the church stood a gnarly, old, and very large Acacia tree. From one of its branches, the Judas Iscariot dummy was hanged and burned every Easter Sunday. Among kids, this was one of the most awaited spectacles to witness during Holy Week. We’d have a procession of carts with the Blessed Virgin Mary and a host of saints and kids in angelic costume throwing to us bougainvillea flowers in multiple colors from a good enough elevation. The carts with the holy figures had illuminating gas lamps created from the mixture of water and kalburo, a fruit ripening chemical. At that time, I did not realize the explosive element in some things we found and took for granted in church.

He had one story how one very early morning, as he went to open the church doors for the daily Mass he felt some presence near him. Challenged, he asked in the darkness: “Ah sinno kayyu?” (Who are you?). “Daccami Apo!” (Just us, Lord!) came a reply from unknown sources and just as soon the presence was gone. For my uncle, it was the Angels who visited the Church of St Andrew that time.

He always wore a linen cassock, its edges frayed and a pair of white patent leather sungkit (slippers). During harvest season, he’d go to his favorite tobacco farmers and select his own cured tobacco leaves. He rolled his own cigars and the stubs he’d stick in his Briarwood pipe. Experimentation with his implements was not good at all, the cigars tasted horrible, the tar that accumulated on the bore and lip of his pipe was so bad it seemed forever to get rid of taste and if you get caught, you’d get an ear pulled, a whack of the slippers on your rump or a Batarrag (thin bamboo stick) beating. He owned a pink-colored 1947 4 - door Dodge Plymouth. He was always chauffeured in it; it was a very useful vehicle in the sense that my brothers, cousins, and friends learned to drive courtesy of my uncle’s car. On those many learning occasions, we pushed the vehicle out of the garage, down the road farthest away from his earshot before we started the car engine.

My uncle made sure we ate vegetables with every meal and no one got up from the dining table unless his plate was clean as a whistle. There was no cooler or refrigerator and no electricity, remember? You stayed there until you finished your food!

He was not a confrontational individual and was not a great story-teller, per se. He was a man of few words, except when he was at the pulpit to give homily. Outside of Mass, he was more instructional and directional than as an engaging communicator. I thought his devotion towards his role in the parish was exceptionally focused. His life was geared to the fulfillment of evangelizing the faithful who listened and to teach the Catholic way of life. I learned from my parents that he was a school teacher and shortly thereafter changed his vocation to serve the Lord Jesus Christ. I never asked and so did not find out his reason for the career change-up (a love story gone bad, perhaps?); whatever it was, his decision was the better one for himself and us (the convent in Bacarra was very large enough that we used to have a busload of people from Manila vacationing with us!).

My uncle strongly believed the town of Bacarra is where one can fine the root of the Albano family, not from the town of Sarrat, from where his parents, my grandparents came from. To support this contention, he would mention a true to life event that he himself experienced. Msgr. Fidel E. Albano gave the Blessed Sacrament (last rites) to a dying criminal with a surname like his. He found out the lady physician who tried to save the dying man has the same surname. The criminal was shot and killed by the town sheriff with the same surname. Of course, the town judge in the case has the same surname!

I never witnessed or heard of my uncle to suffer any illness throughout his life. Msgr. Fidel E. Albano did not get sick and as a far as I know, this was a man of steely constitution. He had a full set of teeth, blackened from tobacco use, did not brush his teeth and just gargled with salt and water regularly. He did not have a sweet tooth either. The only time he saw physicians was during summer when my parents, both practitioners of medicine in Manila, visited him in Bacarra, not for any treatment but for the annual family reunion at Easter time. I’ve never seen him overweight. Yet, he enjoyed his basi, the homegrown liquor made from sugar cane juice aged in burnay (earthen jars).

He retired from duties at the Parish of St. Andrew and settled in Tondo, Manila. He exchanged a huge and tremendous responsibility for a small bedroom in his brother’s household. In his new environment, he adjusted easily with his nephews, nieces, and their children. Noise level in a bustling household was high and probably one major item he had to overcome. He loved to sit by the front porch of the house where he read the daily missal, in between watching passers-by along busy Cavite St. During regular days, he was chauffeured to St. Joseph Church in Gagalangin to say morning Mass. On most days, he preferred to walk that distance. He wore his signature white cassock and buckled black shoes every day to church. One day, he had a heatstroke while walking on his way home from Gagalangin. He recovered from that and his brother made sure he was to be brought to and picked up from St. Joseph Church.

As unobtrusive and as quiet an individual that he was, Msgr. Fidel E. Albano left to meet his Creator at the age of 79, at peace with himself and all.





Sunday, November 18, 2012

A Visit to Lolo and Lola


My family and I visited New York mid-September for a week.  We stayed at my sister Nicola's apartment in Manhattan - my mother also stays with her.  We've visited a number of places in the city which I will write on separately.
On the last leg of our visit, we (together with sisters Nicola and Kristina) went to Staten Island via ferry boat from downtown Manhattan (near Battery Park and the St Elizabeth Ann Seton Church).  Staten Island is where most of Papa's siblings and their families live.  Papa fetched us and one of my sisters told him that we wanted to visit the graveyard of our grandparents Lolo Paul and Lola Piling as well as that of Tita Aning, Papa's first cousin.
Unlike Manhattan, Staten Island seems more relaxed and has a considerable amount of trees and other natural resources. It was a sunny 15th of September. 
Days ago, I was having thoughts of what will I say on my grandparents' grave. Should I introduce Nidz and Chiara to them? Will I sing for them "Salve Regina", a song they once sang? When we arrived at the Moravian Cemetery, Papa tidied up the place as there have been rubbish covering the epitaph. Nicola put some flowers we bought for them. As for me, all my plans evaporated. I couldn't say a thing. Papa started to lead us in prayer and then we stayed for a few minutes just to look at the place and exchange pleasantries with Pilar Vera, a first cousin who came by. Still, I couldn't say a thing. I just gazed at the grave.  Kristina started saying (to my grandparents) "Here is your grandson." I became teary-eyed, but managed to hide it. I simply kissed the epitaph twice - one for Lolo and one for Lola as a sign of my respect, the way I did when they were still alive.
As our relatives were waiting for us in a house nearby, we started to wrap up our visit by having a picture taking (see above).  Chiara, strangely, stood on top of the epitaph. I put my hands on her  to protect her from falling.  The ease and speed of technology brought this picture to another part of the globe. My brother Gio (who's in Singapore) would later tell me that he saw the picture and was asking why I let Chiara stood on the epitaph. My brother felt it seems disrespectful. I told him I don't think so. For me, Chiara standing on top of the epitaph, is a statement that she has Albano roots. That she is a great granddaughter of Paulino and Pilar.
It was my first visit to my grandparents' burial place and I felt their presence. Perhaps that was the reason why I was speechless. It was an emotional occasion.  I'm very grateful for having been there with my wife and child and with other members of the family.  In a way, I felt Lolo and Lola were still alive in the faith that we continue to live, celebrate, and share.The same faith that they once cherished and passed on to us.
May God bless their souls. Amen.





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