There are still some other things that we her parents do which she could quickly mimic, including words we say. There are two words which she has remarkably uttered to a high degree of clarity: “Daddy” and “No”. The former she learnt much from her Mom (Nidz and I decided to call each other “Mommy” and “Daddy” to teach Chiara what she could call us.); the latter she learnt – in spite of my denials – from me.
At times, she would keep on calling “Daddy” even if I were away from home. One weekend, when I was the one looking after her, she called for me, but I ignore it having been busy with something. Sensing that she was ignored, she cried! It’s music to the ears to be called “Daddy”. The opposite is true when she says “No” especially when you want her to sleep, finish her food, or keep quiet.
That’s why as much as possible I try to tell her the effects of her actions (e.g. "You might fall if you climb the stairs.") Yet sometimes, and most especially when you urgently have to call her attention, I couldn’t help but blurt out “No!”
At this early a stage in a child’s life, the word “No” seems not acceptable for us parents. We tend to be in control and when the child under our care shows resistance (i.e. says “No”); she will have to face the consequences (e.g. punishments). I just wonder what would it be when Chiara grows older? I cannot tell the future, but I could make a lasting imprint on it for my daughter. By being discreet in the words I say (Not just “No”, but the “F”, “S”, and “P” words too.) and the deeds I do.
As a Tagalog saying goes “Ipakita mo na sa matanda, huwag lang sa bata.”
A few years ago, when the issue of some priests' failing their vow of celibacy came under fire, the late Msgr Nico Bautista told his interviewer that what inspires him to remain faithful to his vocation was his father. To me it came as a surprise, but it just shows how parenting, the family, the home could all form us as persons. If we become good persons, then the society, the Church, the country, and the world would become good.
It is unfortunate that I won't be able to vote in the Philippine elections in May, but I would strongly urge voters to check very well the candidates they would elect. Here's some useful criteria:
1. Is he/she a faithful and conscientious spouse/parent?
2. Does he/she treat the household helpers (e.g. maids, laundrywoman, driver, etc) with kindness and respect?
If your answers are "Yes", then go for that candidate!
